Rules BDSM Parties

UBDSM RULES 2018/2019
As effect from 2017-09-01

 

1) When signing the indemnity form for the club you agreed that everything that you observe during a Party will be kept in strict confidence and you recognize this as a contractual obligation. You also agreed to do nothing to jeopardize the privacy and identities of any other attendees, members or the host establishment.

 

1.1: Anything seen, done, or heard at the Parties, is to remain at the party. WHY? All of us have lives outside this Club. Some of the information that is shared or showed or spoken of, if it were to enter our professional or personal life, could do some serious damage. Unfortunately rules are needed for any BDSM organization. Some groups have more rules than others, but they usually boil down to the same thing.

 

1.2: Note: Some groups have more rules than others, but they usually boil down to the same thing.

 

2) By attending the Party you assume all risk and dangers incidental to the event, occurring before, during or after the event.

 

3) Entry is by invitation by the owner of the premises Jaco. If you do not have an invitation, No entry.

 

4) How do I get an invitation – Register on www.clubromebdsm.co.za and an invitation might be sent to you, your registration alone does not mean you will receive an invitation and the decision remains with the owners of the club and / the organiser of the Party.

 

5) Dungeon Masters/Mistress are here for your safety. They need to be respected at all times. Their word is Law. If you have any questions about a scene do not approach the parties, rather speak to a Dungeon Master/Mistress. If you see anything that concerns you please flag it with a DM immediately.

 

6) While there will be times when people will meet one another at a party and decide to play, please keep in mind that our parties are not a "meat market" If your reason for attending is to 'pick up someone, then UBDSM is probably not the place for you. Feel free to get to know people and socialise but do not assume that because someone is attending they are open to your advances.

 

7) Toys

 

7.1 Each member must supply their own personal toys. While everyone is welcome to use the 'large' equipment, i.e. bondage crosses, spanking benches, etc, you will need to bring your own cuffs, whips, paddles and whatever other toys you wish to use. If you do not have toys, please speak to the Dungeon Masters/Mistress, they will be willing to show you how to use toys correctly.

 

7.2 There are equipment in place for cleaning, please make sure you leave the play areas in the condition in which you would like to find it. Also please make use of the dustbins provided.

 

8) Respect

 

8.1 Always respect the rights of other members

 

8.2 Keep your conversations quiet while play is taking place. If you would rather talk than observe a scene, please move to another area to conduct your conversations.

 

8.3 If you are uncomfortable with an on-going scene, you should simply step away from it. Do not infringe on the rights of others. If for any reason a scene needs to be stopped it will be done by the Dungeon Master/Mistress.

 

8.4 If you feel a scene is unsafe inform the Dungeon Master/Mistress and he/she will review the scene. Be aware of your surroundings. Do not step into an area where a play is happening to avoid injury.

 

9) Safewords

 

9.1 The universal safeword at UBDSM parties is RED. If someone uses the safeword, the activity must be stopped immediately. Both parties must agree to anything that occurs in a scene. Please note that if you intend to engage in a more serious scene an agreement needs to be signed by the participating parties, please enquire from the Dungeon Master/Mistress where such agreement can be collected and completed.

 

9.2 And each party has the right to refuse any act. If the submissive in a scene is to be gagged at any time, a safe signal must first be discussed with the Dominant in the scene. The safe-words for the party are Red, Orange and Green. Red means "Stop what you are doing right now!", Orange means: "Check with me, something is wrong." And Green means: "I am ok... please, please carry on!"

 

10) Nudity

 

10.1 Nudity is mostly allowed, but penetrative sex is not allowed in the main play area. There are private rooms for this and for many people BDSM is not equated with sex. Respect others if you find that you need for penetration to end a scene, do so in a private room with that specific person.

 

11) Dress Code

 

11.1 Please respect the dress code, as this adds to the atmosphere of the parties. No street wear is allowed at the parties. Fetish, black or red dress wear is acceptable. No jeans and takkies.

 

12) Drugs

 

12.1 No drugs are permitted on the club premises! If you are found to be in possession or under the influence of drugs, relevant authorities will be contacted, you will be asked to leave the club immediately, and you will be banned. No exceptions.

 

13) Alcohol

 

13.1 No person who is intoxicated will be allowed into the play area or allowed to play. Contrary to popular belief alcohol is not a performance enhance.

 

14) Solicitation

 

14.1 No solicitation! If you offer any of the other attendees money for sex, you will be escorted off the premises and banned, no exceptions.

 

15) Sanitary Issues

 

15.1 Due to safety and sanitary issues, scat and water sports are not permitted at any UBDSM party.

 

16) Photography

 

16.1 The taking of photographs are permitted but please make sure that you have the permission of any individuals in such photographs. There is a photographer at the party you may ask the photographer to take pictures of you/your play. The photos then will be emailed to you by either the photographer or Katarina

 

- Enjoy yourself – Remember SSC (Safe, Sane Consensual) ALWAYS apply!!!

 

Note these rules apply to everybody at the venue and noboby is exempt!

 

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